The kindest of souls

We are really quick to judge the choices of others, more so if they are something we would not perceive as healthy or good choices. That is my thinking. But if we came to the understanding that the choices everyone makes comes down to either a place of happiness or pain, maybe we would try and look at it through lenses that are a little less judgmental and more understanding and tenderhearted.

Everyone’s supreme goal is to be happy. In the process of getting there, it requires one to deal with the pain head on, face it and forge forward.

When someone is not at a place emotionally, mentally and thus physically not in a position to do that, the choices they make will be ones that will reflect them trying to escape that pain.

And when a person is trying to escape the pain that they feel, it will look like a constellate of unhealthy habits and choices you might not understand from the outside looking in.

But if you turned that from the inside looking out, what you will realize is there is a person in there desperately trying to heal and is unable to do so in that moment and so they are doing what they best know how.

Next time you look at someone making a choice that you might not understand, try to understand then choose the love they in all likelihood need the most, kindly.

It is the softest and kindest souls that learn from a world that is tough around them. It is the kindest people who see how hateful and self-centered others can be. It’s the people who are best at communicating that have toxic people who did not want to listen because the truth makes cyanogenic people feel bad about themselves.

Sometimes, it is the people who feel most broken that are the strongest ones because they gave pieces of themselves altruistically to those around them who needed it.

Sometimes it is the people who love the deepest that have learned about tentative love and watched it come and go so like another person had the right to do that. The most graceful people we know oftentimes are the ones who had to repair the scars and wounds themselves of the things they never deserved and everything someone else tried to project on them.

But it is who these people are, how they love and the way in which they carry themselves that creates the kind of beauty so many can see, value and appreciate.

Sometimes it seems that the most delicate souls that understand most end up hurt. The least judgmental people have those judging them most critically. The most forgiving people struggle and have those who hold things against them. The most loving people know the greatest heartbreak.

The most beautiful people see beauty in everyone else. That compassion and kindness is something that sparkles so easy around a world that has tried to make them cold and hard.

Maybe the world did succeed but broke them in the best way. In a way that came so natural to them. This is because they have become the healers that the world needs.

 Meeting insensitivity with good deeds. Meeting the selfish ones with love. Meeting the ones who continue to take with unfailing giving. Meeting the perpetual liars with truth. Meeting the ones who fall short with forgiveness and knowing that they are human and that no one is perfect.

Meeting the ones who break everything and everyone they touch with pieces of themselves they swear they do not need. Meeting enviousness with admiration of that person’s strength. Meeting deeds that will go forgotten with continuing to do good.

Those are the people who realize the hardest people need the softest kind of love. It takes a special person like you who sees the good in everyone and everything and tries their very best each and every day to be that person. The world needs people like you. You are special.