When love comes back define how you want it

People can be surprising. There is a lot more to someone than you originally thought and sometimes, there is less, a lot less. it is easy to make assumptions  about people because of our own expectations and how  we treat people or view the world. In reality, everyone is different.  People can only react to things in the best way they know how. 

Experiences change people, we grow and evolve as we get older and learn how to deal with many of the situations and emotions we encounter in our own way. Remember that not everyone has had the same journey as you and not everyone views life through the same lenses as you do. Some people are extremely self-aware and empathetic, while others lack that entirely.  

Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves and share every thought and others are complete mystery and you never really understand what goes on inside their minds. It can explain why we get to hurt someone or be hurt by someone and the other person has no idea. Sometimes we do or say things that hurt someone else without knowing. Your journey is unique. Your journey brought you here.

 You hold the power to surprise people with your huge heart in the best way possible no matter how many times you have been surprised in the worst way possible. So, let love in. let people know how you feel and do not worry about being too much. be too much. care too much. let people show up for you. Let people remind you that there is goodness in this world. Be vulnerable, do not be afraid of how you feel. Try to find the beauty in each breakdown, try to move forward and let go, try to learn and believe in new beginnings despite what you have been through. 

Kiss the faces of your friends, hug their broken pieces back together, laugh out loudly and hope loudly and live loudly and be gentle with yourself. be gentle with your healing, connect with every part of who you are, with every inch of your patch work heart. Connect with the moments that bring tears to your eyes. connect with the things that make your hands shake. Embrace the things that make you aware of just how lucky you are to be alive. 

Please, just connect, because beautiful things are slowly vanishing each and every day. Do not let your heart become one one of them. and when love comes back, open the door slowly. Let its presence remind you exactly of what you used to let in before you watched it leave.

Let love sew every detached thread that once convinced you love is not everything warm, make you feel your best when immersed in it. When love comes back, do not ask why it left before. Ask it why it is staying now. Show it who you are, where you have been and who you have yet to become. Do not let it scare you, let it open you up. 

Let love help you show yourself.  When  love comes back, hold it closer, kiss it a little longer, touch it a little softer. Know you deserve it over and over again until it stays for so long that you know nothing else until you accept nothing else. Give it all you have learned. Plant parts of you inside of it so that you are always a vital piece in its growth, turn your pain into the blossoms that you are living proof of. 

Show it where to put its things, how you like your space and how you fold your sheets. Give it time to get to know you, give it an opportunity to be a decoration in your life. know that love is meant to stay and one that will continue to come back over and over. Day and after day, again and again. Always remembering where the little things need to be placed and how the sheets need to be folded.

When love comes back remember to define it how you want to this time. remember that it is yours to keep,it is yours to come back too. I know how difficult it is to close your heart off to all that it sees in another human being. But in walking away, you will learn how to pour all of the love that you were giving to the wrong person back into yourself. And you will learn how to pour it into all that you desire in life. You will learn how to pour into your growth, into your art, into your hope.